So, if "Mellow" Aging Works for Wines... 

Why shouldn't it work for aging women, as well (among others)?? For one thing, regardless of our ages/genders, we surely draw upon a certain "mellow-magic" when behaving positively and kindly; when lending a hand however, whenever, and wherever we can; and also when devoting both thought and effort toward making our Own lives work for us, whatever our circumstances.

But can/will we pull-off all that—given what we could be contending with at this particular stage? Maybe yes, and one way might be to balance our own "baggage" with actions such as these: adopting and/or acknowledging a mission or purpose...or tackling a goal or dream. Those gems and many others may even now be calling our names...loudly.

As well, we might assess the degree of exploration, adventure, and Flat-Out Fun in our lives. Because those puppies can wander off when we're busy, stressed, bored, etc., monitoring (and perhaps the occasional direct measure) may help us keep them close at hand or reel them back when they do stray.

A Few "Direct Measures" to Consider...

At certain times, some of us might find it helpful to talk with people who actually know how to listen. For example, conversations with a sensitive friend/family member, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc., can sometimes yield remarkable (and perhaps unexpected) benefits.

Another possibility? Life-tweaks, which could include even very simple adjustments
to enhance and/or lure back joie de vivre or ease an issue that may be troubling you. A single step, even just one, can often start the ball rolling, whatever the nature and scope of the "tweak" you're undertaking.

Here's another: Could you be harboring a
long-held wish or goala personal path (or hill) awaiting your metaphorical boots? If yes, perhaps you and those boots might decide to embark upon one or more of the following:

* Getting verrry clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself or perhaps need to do
* Laying out a course of action (perhaps focused upon small steps)  
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead and hanging in(!)
* Staying out of the dreaded Boxes as you work your way forward


Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be any attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Such "boxes" tend to lean in quite obnoxiously during the autumn (i.e., aging) years.

For example, the don't-get-old box can sometimes assault midlife and senior folk in tedious and possibly even destructive ways. Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which can deflect us from pursuing the things we want or maybe even Really need to do...and that we perhaps feel guilty about not having dealt with before now. (Guess how I know that, right?)

Equally dampening to the spirit can be the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it (the DDIs) boxes, and the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the "usual suspects."

           Click on any live link below for discussions of these and other bandits.

                                Acing the Aging Gig

Whether or not the box analogy itself works for you doesn't really matter. But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" could represent might sometimes hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. Plus, they can sure trash mellow.

Something else to consider is the extent to which our world could really use your own wisdom, good humor, and experience. Do you (or the rest of us) actually owe those qualities to the world? Who knows, really. But think what a gift they can be when applied generously and widely! 

And as those "gifts" lighten and/or brighten the lives of others in various ways, our own may do so as well: surely one of Life's kinder double-wins. So, maybe we might pursue such wins more often ourselves?? (I vote yes, but yours is the vote that matters.) 

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