So, if Aging Mellow Works for Wines... 

Why not for aging women, as welland anyone else giving Father Time the side-eye. For some, in fact, it seems to be paying off already with lives that suit them better; a kinder and calmer world around them; and fewer and less-effective bullies raining on their parades (see Boxes below).

Enticing prospects, right? Still, given the cracks our hearts may now carry, and/or other hindrances, how do we achieve a mellow state ourselves? Surely by many and varied means, but two candidates in particular might be real game-changers for some of us: (a) adopting or acknowledging a mission or purpose; (b) tackling a (possibly long-held) goal or dream. These and So many others may even now be calling our names...loudly.

We might also take a really hard look at the level of exploration, creativity, adventure, and Flat-Out Fun in our lives. Because those puppies tend to wander off when we're busy, stressed, bored, etc., monitoring (and perhaps the occasional direct measure) may help us keep them closer or reel them back when they do stray.

A Few "Measures" to Consider...

During challenging times, some of us might find it helpful to talk with people who know how to listen. For example, conversations with a sensitive friend or family member, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc., can sometimes yield remarkable (and perhaps unexpected) benefits.

Another possibility? Life-tweaks, which could include even very simple adjustments
to enhance and/or lure back joie de vivre or ease an issue that may be troubling you. A single step, even just one, can often start the ball rolling, whatever the nature and scope of the "tweak" you're undertaking.

Here's another: Could you be harboring a long-held wish or goala personal path/hill awaiting your metaphorical boots? If yes, perhaps you and those boots might decide to embark upon one or more of the following:

* Getting verrry clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself or perhaps need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain/accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead and hanging in(!)
* Staying out of the dreaded Boxes as you work your way forward


Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be any attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Such "boxes" tend to lean in obnoxiously during the autumn (i.e., aging) years.

For example, the don't-get-old box can sometimes assault midlife and senior folk in tedious and possibly even destructive ways.
Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which can deflect us from pursuing the things we want or maybe even Really need to do...things we very possibly also feel guilty about not having dealt with before now. (Guess how I know that.)

Equally dampening to the spirit can be the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it (the DDIs) boxes, and the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the "usual suspects."

           Click on any live link below for discussions of these and other bandits.

                                Acing the Aging Gig

Whether or not the box analogy itself works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" may often represent might sometimes hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. Plus, they can sure trash mellow.

Something else to (pleeez) consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Do we actually owe those qualities to the world? Who knows, really. But I vote yes, because what a gift they can be when applied generously and widely.

And as those "gifts" lighten/brighten the lives of others in various ways, our own may do so as well: surely one of Life's kinder double-wins. Maybe we might pursue those wins more often, ya think?? 

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