So, if aging mellow tends to produce tasty wines, surely "human mellowness" (cordiality/respect toward others, humor, helpfulness when/where needed, etc.) can enhance our own lives, as well. In fact, such mellowness may have been helping many create, and also hang onto, lives they genuinely enjoy...or at least can stand.
But as we age, "livable" lives may now appear more elusive than previously. If so for you, perhaps you might pay somewhat closer heed to "here and now." [More coming soon.] Another possibility might be to adopt a mission/purpose and/or perhaps to tackle a goal or dream. In fact, these and other candidates could be calling to us at this very moment.
Perhaps, as well, some of us feel our lives lack much of the exploration, adventure, and Flat-Out Fun we once enjoyed. Because those puppies seem to tip-toe off when we're particularly busy, stressed, bored, etc., monitoring (and perhaps occasional specific action) may help us to keep them closer or reel them back when they do stray.
From time to time, some of us might find it helpful to talk with people who actually know how to listen. For example, conversations with a sensitive friend/family member, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc., can sometimes yield remarkable (and perhaps unexpected) benefits.
Another possibility? Life-tweaks, which could include even very simple adjustments to enhance and/or lure back joie de vivre or to ease an issue that may be troubling you. A single step, even just one, can often start the ball rolling, whatever the nature/scope of the "tweak" you're undertaking.
Here's another: Could you be harboring a long-held wish or goal—a personal path (or hill) awaiting your metaphorical boots? If yes, perhaps you and those boots might decide to embark upon one or more of the following:
* Getting verrry clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself or really, really need to do
* Laying out a course of action (perhaps focused upon small steps)
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead and hanging in(!)
* Staying out of the dreaded Boxes as you work your way forward
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be any attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that somehow hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Such "boxes" may now and then lean in harshly during our autumn (i.e., aging) years.
For example, the don't-get-old box can sometimes assault midlife and senior folk in verrry tedious ways. Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which can deflect us from pursuing things we want or maybe even Really need to do...and that we perhaps also feel guilty about not having dealt with before now. (Guess how I know that.)
Equally dampening to the spirit can be the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it (the DDIs) boxes, and the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to name but a few of the "usual suspects."
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Whether the box analogy itself works for you doesn't matter (IMHO). The behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" could represent, however, might sometimes hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. Plus, they can sure trash mellow.
Something else to consider while we're theorizing: the many, many ways our world benefits when you share your wisdom, good humor, and experience. Do you, or the rest of us, actually owe those qualities to the world? Who knows, really. But think what a gift they can be when applied generously and widely.
And as those "gifts" lighten and/or brighten the lives of others in various ways, our own may do so as well—speaking of great double-wins. So, perhaps we might go after those wins more often ourselves?? Jolly Cat and I vote yes, but your own vote is the one that rules for you...although maybe you'll decide to throw in with us. Ya think? ;-)
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