Procrastination Blues

So, we’re not talking rocket science here, right? Surely most would agree that procrastination is not only a seriously tough dude, but also ugly, mean, and nasty. Barring you from your goals and slowly killing your dreams, it can do all kinds of shorter-term damage as well, unless you recognize its power and potential destructiveness.

           Many Feeders

Purely out of self-defense, then, we should be aware of some of the ploys this bully uses to keep us from moving ahead. Here are a few of the usual suspects:

•    Don’t-do-it (plus its two siblings)
•    All-or-nothing syndrome
•    Perfectionism


  "Don't Do It"

Prime procrastination enablers, the don’t-do-its (DDIs), can't-do-its (CDIs), and shouldn't-do-its (SDIs) tend to kick in when we’re thinking about doing something new or a little risky or even just different. Such power can these wet blankets unleash that, if you allow it to happen yourself, they could hold you back indefinitely. If that’s not how you want your life to be, click on the link for a discussion of those particular hazards: the first step. Perhaps you'll find some food for thought there.

  All or Nothing

Although you may not take the all-or-nothing approach to tasks and projects, if you do tend to get mired in this bog, it would likely be because you prefer not to begin anything you can’t finish that hour or that day or at least PDQ.

And I think we’d all agree that finishing things is good (unless you slop through just to get them done). However, when you set a rigid time frame for your projects, you may find yourself procrastinating indefinitely on those requiring a more-flexible deadline and/or approach. A classic standoff, it may also send some flak in your direction from Significant Others, bosses, co-workers, fellow volunteers, etc.

  Perfectionism

With this entry in the procrastination sweepstakes, we move into slightly different waters. In fact, for many, perfectionism may not have that powerful an effect upon whether or not they begin something. But it can make finishing almost impossible for some of us, as a tinkering habit can nail projects right to the ground. And there they stay, vainly spinning until someone finally pulls the plug.

If that kind of thing tends to happen to you now and then, see if you can "just say no" to the tinkering urge and actually mean it. And I'm not suggesting that it will be easy, because it likely won't, but I am suggesting that it will be worth the effort.


Cut Yourself Some Slack

A final (cautionary) word here: just because you procrastinate doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. At the starting point, as well as along the way, people often choke for any of the above reasons and/or simple force of habit, lack of support, and related blocks.

If something continually holds you back, perhaps you could give some thought to why. Even if the answer(s) dismay or discourage you at first, at least you’ll know. Then, should you choose, you can take "remediative" measures. [Yes, I made that word up, as I'm feeling pompous today.]

Meanwhile, though, do what you can where you are and with whatever you have at hand or can get hold of...to paraphrase some great advice from Teddy Roosevelt. Here and now are right in front of us, but they tend to slip away quickly. So, we need to grab them while we can, because many of us no longer have decades to accomplish the needful or the "wantful." Now, we'll benefit most from using our time in focused ways.


BTW,
focused ways can also mean fun ways, so even as you work through the essentials yourself, remember that all work and no play can make us not only "dull girls" but also rebellious and grouchy. So, instead of plunging into that trap, take care of business in a timely manner, and also leave some room for fun. After all, who deserves it more than you?

For a lighter take on procrastination, you might read some material by the philosopher John Perry. (Among other things, he wrote the lower book in the right column.)

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