So, we’re not talking rocket science here, right? Surely, most would agree that procrastination is not only a seriously tough dude, but also ugly, mean, and nasty. Slow killer of dreams, forestaller of goals, bouncer at the door to your well-being: it can be all of those things and more unless you recognize its power and potential destructiveness.
Purely out of self-defense, then, we should be aware of some of the ploys this bully uses to keep us from moving ahead. Here are a few of the usual suspects:
• Don’t-do-it (plus its two siblings)
• All-or-nothing syndrome
procrastination enablers? The don’t-do-its (DDIs), can't-do-its (CDIs), and shouldn't-do-its (SDIs), which tend to kick
in when you’re thinking about doing something new or a little risky or
even just different. Such power can these wet blankets unleash that, if you
allow it to happen, they could hold you back indefinitely. If that’s
not how you want your life to be, click on the link for a discussion of those
particular hazards: the first step. Perhaps you'll find some food for thought there.
you may not take the all-or-nothing approach to tasks and projects
yourself, many people do. So, just in case one of those is you, let’s
touch upon this briefly. If you do tend to get mired in this bog, it
would likely be because you prefer not to begin anything you
can’t finish that hour or that day or at least PDQ.
I think we’d all agree that finishing things is good (unless you slop
through just to get them done). However, when you set a rigid time frame
for your projects, you may find yourself
procrastinating indefinitely on those requiring a more-flexible deadline
and/or approach. A classic standoff, it
may also fire some flak in your direction, often from Significant
Others but also from bosses, co-workers, fellow volunteers, etc.
this entry in the procrastination sweepstakes, we move into slightly
different waters. In fact, for many, perfectionism may not have that powerful an
effect upon whether or not they begin something. But it can make
almost impossible for some of us, as a tinkering habit can
nail projects right to the ground. And there they stay, vainly spinning
until someone finally pulls the plug.
If that kind of thing tends to happen to you now and then, see if you can "just say no" to the tinkering urge and actually mean it. And I'm not suggesting that it will be easy, because it likely won't be, but I am suggesting that it will be worth the effort.
A final (cautionary) word here:
just because you procrastinate doesn’t mean there’s something wrong
with you. At the starting point, as well as along the way, people often
choke for any of the above reasons and/or simple force of habit, lack of
support, and related blocks. If something continually holds you back,
see if you can figure out the why
of it. Even if the answer(s) dismay or discourage you at first, at
least you’ll know. Then, should you choose, you can take "remediative"
measures. [Yes, I made that word up, as I'm feeling pompous
Meanwhile, and above all, simply do what you can where you are and with what you have at hand or can get hold of...to paraphrase some great advice from Teddy Roosevelt. Here and now are right in front of you, but they tend to slip away quickly. So, grab them while you can. In the Autumn Years, we no longer have the luxury of decades to accomplish the needful or the "wantful": hence, the need to use at least some of our time in focused ways.
BTW, focused ways can also mean fun ways, so even as you work through the essentials, remember that all work and no play can make Jackie not only dull but also rebellious and grouchy. So, instead of plunging into that trap, take care of business in a timely manner, and also leave some room for fun. After all, who deserves it more than you?
For a lighter take on procrastination, visit John Perry at Structured Procrastination. You'll likely find him more than worth the trip. He's also the author of the lower book in the right column.
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