Greetings from someone perhaps a bit like yourself, if over the years you've worn more hats than you'd planned and taken some unexpected hits as well. But while you're here, perhaps think of me as one of your rowdier fans—clapping and cheering as you navigate the aging process itself and maybe also pursue some goals, undergo a particular transition, or work through any of the following (or other) processes that might call to you:
* Clarifying your present circumstances
* Determining what you believe needs to be dealt with and/or how you'd like your life to be
* Planning how to accomplish those things
* Tackling each step of your plan
Here, I share certain things I've observed/learned myself over the years (often, the hard way), hoping they might be useful to others. If you do choose to explore, however, please understand two things.
The first is that I am neither therapist nor professional coach. The second is that, despite my best efforts, a goose may emerge now and then to offer "assertive" encouragement. If she becomes too pushy, we could simply eat her (said the vegetarian), but let's don't. The old girl does mean well. ;-)
Over the years (and among other things), I've served as a
U.S. Peace Corps volunteer; taught third grade, primary remedial reading, and also adult literacy; helped manage a work-release program for federal prisoners; edited documents in public health, water and sanitation, and economic development; and served as an active volunteer, grant/program writer, and board member for organizations targeting shelter and food needs. Quite late in life, I also trained in life coaching but didn't work with clients professionally because I thought I was "too old."
Hardly a focused background, is it? And also not that unusual, I think, as life may sometimes require waaay more flexibility and compromise than feel comfortable at particular times. Perhaps you've noted this phenomenon yourself, now and then, right? You may have noted, as well, that such needs tend to have few expiration dates. Perhaps, though, we also experience enough good times to keep moving (or plodding) along.
And why touch upon this hard and sometimes frustrating and/or sad "place"? To remind us that the journeys of others may be neither shorter nor more straightforward than our own...and to encourage you, specifically, to keep pushing ahead yourself when Life may fail to match your expectations and/or hopes.
If your own odyssey has included unexpected twists and turns, detours, and even blockages, please bear something in mind: that was then. Now, if an alternate route or even a brand new journey beckons, perhaps you might remain open to broadening and/or deepening your
gaze...or possibly even shifting its direction entirely, if any of those feel right for you at this time.
Big Goose and I also suggest (nay, urge!) that you ponder practical ways to address the clutching hands of habit, health issues, any needs and/or expectations not your own, this month's crisis and/or crises, etc. Meanwhile, though, three cheers and a parade if you're looking closely at your Own wants and needs. You could be taking the first steps of a great "trip."
So, two votes: Keep taking those steps to see where they lead you; remember to have some laughs along the way. And may Yoda and "the Force" be with you as you go! ;-)