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So, perhaps you've discovered (or rediscovered), as do some during the "autumn years," how abruptly the good times can yield to challenging events and circumstances. Maybe you're even experiencing that phenomenon as we speak. For example...
* You lose your job but are still too young to retire; plus, who says you want to?
* Your life partner wants to dissolve the relationship—or perhaps dies unexpectedly.
* You're dealing with a serious health issue—or have even received a terminal diagnosis.
* An intimate partner or other loved one faces similar circumstances.
* You realize that the days and weeks provide little satisfaction—or perhaps even frustration, etc.
* You're beginning to feel less valued because of your age.
And so on. Perhaps, as well, it seems that the "imperatives" of others have edged aside your own somewhat too often. That can easily happen in a world of differing needs and wants. But now you may sense the Big Clock ticking away the time you have to be, do, or have what you want Yourself.
Does any of the above speak to you? If yes, whatever your needs, issues, or desires and whether or not you’re 100-percent clear about those, might this be a good time for some serious thought? Bearing in mind that anything you decide to move ahead with can often be undertaken one step at a time.
Working It Out
A possible first step? Laying out a single goal: a "destination," so to speak, even if it remains a bit fuzzy as yet. What, you weren’t expecting a trip? No worries, because you’d be in charge of this one. And it could take you to some interesting places both literally and figuratively—or perhaps to the end of a difficult process, which may then free you up for an adventure.
Sometimes, the mere thought of a new direction unlocks possibilities to explore and, thus, a new "journey." During that exploration, which may or may not involve some work with a counseling or coaching professional, you could further clarify how you'd like your life to be. Then, you'd begin (or continue) working
toward that version.
So, do you think you might be ready to take something on? If you answer no, please don’t let the reason be that you think you're too old or that it’s “too late.” As
long as you’re breathing, you can often influence your life in some way.
For example, you can make even small changes to yourself, which is how broader change often tends to begin...for some, anyway. Plus, you may get things working and/or feeling better for
yourself if you simply commit to doing whatever that takes...and then follow through. (While also bearing in mind the old adage about catching more bees with honey, right?)
Bottom Line?
Here's at least one: Frequently, a personal "game" needn't be over until you decide
that it's over. That's the good news; the other news is that whatever you need/want to do will likely be pretty much up to you. BUT (as perhaps tiresomely noted at this site) you can tackle even difficult goals, projects, or personal journeys in steps.
So, why not go ahead and take that first one? Then, just carry on and see where your journey ultimately leads. Because if you stand back, instead, you may one day regret that...which would be Such A Bummer.
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