Perhaps you, too, experienced what appears to be one of Life's "laws," this one decreeing that the good times sometimes yield to inconvenient events and circumstances. For example, maybe...
* You lose your job but are still too young to retire; plus, who says you want to anyway?
* Your life partner plans to dissolve the relationship—or perhaps dies unexpectedly.
* You're dealing with a serious health condition—or have even received a terminal diagnosis.
* An intimate partner or other loved one faces similar circumstances.
* You realize that the days and weeks provide little satisfaction—or perhaps even frustration, etc.
* You're beginning to feel less valued because of your age.
And so on. Meanwhile, perhaps you're reflecting that, over the years, the needs/wishes of others have tended to edge aside some (possibly many) of your own. That may happen, for example, when people have kids, significant others, employers, aging parents, etc., and seems to be part of the rhythm of life. But now you hear the Big Clock ticking away the time you have to be, do, or have what you want Yourself.
Ready to get serious about some of those things? Or maybe all of them? Whatever your needs, issues, or desires and whether or not you’re utterly and 100-percent clear about those, there’s no time like the present to begin addressing them—one step at a time.
A good first step? Clarifying your goals...your "destination," so to speak, if that remains somewhat fuzzy. What, you weren’t expecting a trip? No worries: you’re in charge of this one, which could take you to some interesting places both literally and figuratively—or perhaps to the end of a difficult process, which then frees you up for an adventure. (Yes!)
Sometimes even the mere thought of a new direction unlocks possibilities to explore, and thus a new "journey." During that exploration, you may further clarify how you'd like your life to be—and then begin, or continue, working toward that version. As you do, you may also find yourself taking more pleasure in the life you’re living right now, speaking of win-win and also of interesting paradoxes.
So, ready to take it on? If you answer no, please don’t try to tell
yourself that it’s because you’re too old or it’s “too late.” (If you let them, those too-late/old boxes can be killers.)
For as long as you’re breathing, you can often influence your life in some way. You can make changes, particularly to yourself, since that's generally where broader change begins. You can also get things working/feeling better for yourself, if you commit yourself to doing so and also to doing whatever it takes to make that happen. (Bearing in mind the old adage about catching more bees with honey, right?)
Here's how it looks to me: your game ain’t over until You decide
that it's over. And forget about the singing "fat lady," because you're the singer yourself in this gig. That's the good news. The other news is that whatever you need or want to do is going
to be largely up to you. Still, you can generally tackle
even complex projects and personal journeys step by step. Ready to take the first one? You might be pretty pleased at where it ultimately leads you...