So okay, mellow and aging may seem pretty improbable bedfellows to some of us in our Autumn or Winter phases; after all, growing older can become tedious now and then, no? What better reason, then, to toast some good news—which would be the notable parallel between aging humans and developing wines.
True, we don't get to loll about in bottles, but like wines we do often develop depth, complexity, and mellowness over time. More good news? Within such an "environment," bitching, moaning, carping, and one-upping (to name but a few) can give way to a warmer and lighter approach to life. How cool is that?
Although we each attain that enviable state (when we do) in our own way, many no doubt find the "mellowness-morph" partnering nicely with purpose, exploration, adventure, and even just simple fun.
But—wouldn't you know?—those good things sometimes go missing, perhaps temporarily and only to a minor degree. Or, maybe you pretty much lose your zest for life...or begin to wonder if (daang!!) you've somehow strayed into a game of cut-throat poker with the Fates.
At such times, you may find that even simple tweaks can sometimes help you restore your joie de vivre. Another possibility? Start taking steps toward a longstanding wish or goal (or a new one!), a personal "hill" awaiting your metaphorical boots. Even if you feel constrained by circumstances at the moment, perhaps give some thought to—
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps need to do.
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish those things.
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead at a pace that works for You.
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes.
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in during our later years. For example, the don't-get-old box thrives on such counsel as this: *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Five ways not to look like a scary hag during your later years...
Sure, with the last one I'm just horsing around, but missives (or missiles!) like these are all over the place. Even when offered in a helpful spirit, such material seems to suggest that we become less-valued members of society as the years pass. In case we hadn't noted signs of that ourselves, right?
I vote we trash rigid and ageist rules concerning wearing apparel, or hair styles and makeup, or what some consider "appropriate" for women of our years to be, do, or have. As grownups, we are more than capable of making our own choices, creating our own style (among other things), and having a blast besides.
Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box. This one we'd all be wise to steer clear of, for it is The Box from Hell. Plus, the more years we accumulate, the more potentially destructive it becomes, if we allow it to deflect us from the things we want or from those things we may really, really need to take care of (and possibly feel guilty about not having done previously).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to
name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself:
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't matter. The behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent, however, might hinder you unnecessarily and perhaps also more than you realize. But if you stay alert, you can often blow right past those draggers—freeing yourself to make the days and years at your disposal both mellow and productive, whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider: now, possibly more than ever, the world needs your experience, wisdom, and humor. You can help all of us (yourself included) by playing your best game during these years. And as you do, never forget that the really smart money's on you, kid. But you knew that already, right? ;-)
PS: If your particular "game" involves something you want or need to do,
even a single step counts. Maybe take one today?