Why not women such as ourselves, right? Sure, our own aging "experience" will include challenges foreign to mellowing wines, but we do at least get to choose the ways we address such challenges. We also get to choose the nature of our broader approach to life itself: fairly upbeat, for example, or perhaps subdued or glum...or something else entirely. We decide.
So, what if we seasoned women "decided" to consciously adopt a lighter attitude across the board—allowing ourselves to laugh more, stress less, and do whatever we can to fend off the Aging Blues.
What if, as well, we monitored our aging experience now and then for such elements as purpose (helping others, for example), exploration, adventure, and just plain fun. Why? Because these four, which contribute so greatly to life at any age, may wander a bit during our later years.
If we're lucky, they don't all vacate at the same time and possibly begin to trickle back fairly soon. But if some of this to-and-fro takes place while we're also dueling (perhaps unequally) with the Fates, what options do we have? Besides chewing our nails, wringing our hands, and/or perhaps cursing "colorfully"...
During tedious or challenging times, perhaps you might spend time with someone who understands how to listen: a sensitive friend or family member, for example, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc. Conversations with such people can sometimes be more helpful than we expect.
Another possibility? Now and then, some of us find that tweaking our lives in even very simple ways helps us lure back our joie de vivre. Or, maybe you might begin sorting out something more serious that's dragging on your life, if anything is so doing and if the "sorting" seems feasible under your present circumstances. Even a single step could start the ball rolling...
Something else to consider: Could you be harboring a long-held wish or goal—a personal path or hill that's been awaiting your metaphorical boots? Any of the following, for example, might be steps for you and those "boots" to undertake:
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in quite a bit during the autumn years.
A prime example would be the don't-get-old box, which can hound at least some of us in very tiresome ways. Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which deflects us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from those things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having sorted out before now (raising my hand on this one).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggers—whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.
Meanwhile, whatever path you forge, do remember to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? And may the "Force" be with you as you go, kid!!
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