Or does the linkage of human aging with a certain "mellowness" seem just too implausible? If so, I understand; after all, how many people really expect the maturing process to be a jolly walk in the park? Yet, when we actually look around us, a notable parallel between aging humans and developing wines can often be seen.
True, we don't get to loll about in casks and bottles as wines do, which on busy or harassing days seems rather unfair. ;-) But under the right circumstances, we too develop depth, complexity, and mellowness over time—qualities that in turn can promote a lighter and warmer approach toward life than might otherwise be our lot. How cool is that??
So, how do we foster that particular "morph" within ourselves? No doubt in myriad ways, although purpose, exploration, adventure, and just plain fun seem to advance the cause for many.
Unfortunately, but also predictably, those puppies wander off now and then...sometimes only temporarily and/or to a minor degree. Or perhaps we lose a part of our zest for life or even wonder if we've strayed into a game of cut-throat poker with the Fates.
If you're experiencing "challenging" times yourself, just a few simple tweaks might help restore some of your joie de vivre. (Like you haven't thought of this, right?) But perhaps you really could sort out one or two things that most ruffle your feathers right now. Or maybe take some steps, large or small, toward a wish or goal—a personal "hill" awaiting your metaphorical boots. For example, here are four possibilities:
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish those things
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead at a pace that works for You
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in during our later years. For example, the don't-get-old box thrives on such counsel as this: *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Five ways not to look like a scary hag during your later years...
Sure, with the last one I'm just horsing around, but missives (or missiles!) like these are all over the place; sometimes they even seem offered in a helpful spirit. Yet, as grownups, do we actually need Rules concerning the way we choose to present ourselves and/or what we choose to be, do, or have? Although guidance can likely be useful now and then, perhaps a better "rule" might be to remember that we ourselves are the appropriate monitors of our own behavior.
Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box, which we might call the Box from Hell. Why? For one thing, because the more years we accumulate, the more potentially destructive it becomes if we allow it to deflect us from the things we want. Or if we let it block us from those things we may really, really need to take care of (and possibly feel guilty about not having done previously).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to
name but a few of the usual suspects.
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Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter. The behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent, however, may hinder you unnecessarily and perhaps also more than you realize. But if you stay alert, you can often blow right past those draggers—freeing yourself to make the days and years at your disposal both mellow and productive, whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider is that now, possibly more than ever, the world sorely needs your experience, wisdom, and humor. No, you don't "owe" those to us, but what a gift such qualities can be...if you continue to share them. However you do proceed, though, please be sure to include some fun for yourself. And may the Force be with you!