True, the linkage of mellow and aging may seem improbable to some of us transitioning through our Autumn or Winter phases, as the "maturing" process can be hugely tedious now and then. At the same time, we should not (IMHO) dismiss the notable parallel between aging humans and developing wines.
Right? Although we don't get to loll about in bottles ourselves, like wines we do tend to develop depth and complexity over time. Those same qualities often foster a certain mellowness of outlook, within which bitching/moaning/carping can yield (at least occasionally!) to a warmer and lighter approach to life. How cool is that?
Ah, but it's one thing to appreciate the mellow state; achieving and/or maintaining it can be quite another. For example, many of us would find the "mellowness-morph" next to impossible without at least a degree of purpose, exploration, and adventure, plus the critical ingredient: simple fun!
But those sometimes go missing, perhaps only temporarily and only to a mild extent. Or, maybe you pretty much lose your zest for life...or perhaps even feel like you've strayed into a game of cut-throat poker with the Fates.
At such times, one or two simple tweaks can often help dissipate some of what's dimming your joie de vivre. And perhaps you might also start taking steps toward a longstanding (or new!) wish or goal, a personal "hill" waiting to feel your metaphorical boots.
Because if not now, when? If not you, who? Even if circumstances constrain you right now, perhaps give some thought to—
* Getting as clear as possible about what YOU genuinely want, or perhaps need, to accomplish.
* Laying out a plausible course of action, if you want to tweak your circumstances a bit.
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving on at a pace that works for You.
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes.
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" tend to lean in during our later years. For example, the don't-get-old box thrives on such counsel as this: *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Five ways not to look like a scary hag during your later years...
Sure, with the last one I'm just horsing around, but missives (or missiles!) like these are all over the place. Even when offered in a helpful spirit, such material seems to suggest that we become less-valued members of society as the years pass. (In case we hadn't noted signs of that ourselves, right?)
I vote we trash rigid and ageist rules concerning wearing apparel, or hair styles and makeup, or what some consider "appropriate" for women of our years to be, do, or have. As grownups, we are more than capable of making our own choices, creating our own style (among other things), and having a blast besides.
Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box. This one we'd all be wise to steer clear of, for it is The Box from Hell. Plus, the more years we accumulate, the more potentially destructive it becomes, if we allow it to deflect us from the things we want or from those things we may really, really need to take care of (and possibly feel guilty about not having done so previously).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to
name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself:
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't matter. The behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent, however, could hinder you unnecessarily and perhaps also more than you realize. But if you stay alert, you can often blow right past those draggers—freeing yourself to make the days and years at your disposal both mellow and productive, whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
In the Game of Life, I believe we generally fare waaay better when we go for the gusto. Plus, the world needs our experience, wisdom, and humor now more than ever...so why hang back? Instead, help us all by hanging In with your best game and having some serious jollies while you do it. Above all, remember that the smart money's on you, kid!
PS: If your particular "game" involves something you want or need to do,
even a single step counts. Maybe take one today?