Why not women such as ourselves, right? Sure, our own aging "experience" will include challenges foreign to mellowing wines, but at least we can choose the ways we address such challenges, right? We can also choose the nature of our broader approach to life itself: fairly upbeat, for example, or perhaps subdued or glum...or something else entirely. We decide.
So, what if we seasoned women were to "decide" to adopt a lighter attitude across the board—laughing more, stressing less, and finding cool ways to fend off the Aging Blues.
What if, as well, we monitored our aging experience now and then for such elements as purpose (helping others, for example), exploration, adventure, and just plain fun. Why? Because these four, which contribute so greatly to life at any age, may wander some during our later years.
If we're lucky, they don't all scoot off at once...and also trickle back over time. But if this to-and-fro takes place while we're also dueling (perhaps unequally) with the Fates, what options do we have? Besides chewing our nails, wringing our hands, and/or cursing "colorfully"...
During tedious or challenging times, people sometimes find it helpful to spend time with those who understand how to listen: sensitive friends or family members, for example, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc. Conversations with such people may yield surprising benefits.
Another possibility? "Life-tweaks," such as when we make even very simple adjustments to help lure back some of our joie de vivre. Does that strike a chord for you, perhaps? In such a case, maybe you'd begin dealing with something that's dragging on your life, if anything is so doing and if the "dealing" seems feasible under your present circumstances. Even a single step often starts the ball rolling...
Something else to consider: Could you be harboring a long-held wish or goal—a personal path or hill that's been awaiting your metaphorical boots? Any of the following, for example, might be steps for you and those "boots" to undertake:
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in quite a bit during the autumn years.
A prime example would be the don't-get-old box, which can hound at least some of us in very tiresome ways. Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which deflects us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from those things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having sorted out before now (raising my hand on this one).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggers—whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.
Meanwhile, whatever path(s) you forge during these years, do remember to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? And may the "Force" be with you as you go, kid!
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