Aging Mellow...
Could that work for you?

Okay, so maybe the linkage of mellow and aging seems like a stretch to some of us in the autumn phase of lifewhether or not we're not actually kicking and screaming. But consider for a moment the strong (if rarely mentioned) parallel between our lives and a developing wine: don't we, too, become more complex with age?

In my opinion, yes, particularly when our circumstances allow us to bring fun, purpose, and exploration and/or adventure (FPE) into our lives. It's when we go light on those things that our mellowness may gain but a weak toehold...and also wear thinner as the years pass.

In fact, it can become positively threadbare during the hard times when Life starts feeling more like cut-throat poker with the Fates than anything else. Perhaps you've been there and felt that yourself; if so, you know all too well what I'm talking about.

But even if you're not dueling with the Fates right now, why not keep going for the
FPE just on general principles?
Do, however, watch out for the "boxes" that can slow things down (sometimes even to a halt). Here are a few examples of those...

Ugly, Mean, and Nasty in General

One of life's primo bullies, the don't-get-old box encourages us to overly heed such counsel as this: Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60. Seven make-up mistakes women make as they age. Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? Looking old can sometimes be bad for your health. Five ways not to look like a scary hag during your senior years...

Sure, I made the last one up, but messages of this nature abound. Even when offered in a helpful spirit, such material reinforces the tedious message that we often diminish in the eyes of society as the years pass (just in case we hadn't noticed that ourselves). Do we really need these reminders when we're trying to have a good time?

Instead, why not flush rigid and ageist rules concerning wearing apparel, or hair styles and makeup, or what's "appropriate" for a woman of a certain age to be, do, or have? We're grownups entitled to make our own choices and create our own style (among other things)...and to have a blast besides.

  Some Other Boxes to Avoid

Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box. Please stay out of this one as much as you can, for it is a Box from Hell. Plus, the more years we accumulate, the more potentially destructive it becomes if we allow it to deflect us from the things we want or that we perhaps really, really need to do.

When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the usual suspects.

Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself:

Do it later
Make it better (and better and better)
Don’t/Can’t/Shouldn’t do it
All or nothing
Don’t have enough…
Too old/too late to…

  Bottom Line?

Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't matter. The behaviors and thought patterns such "boxes" represent, however, could hinder you unnecessarily. But if you stay alert, you can often blow past those draggersfreeing yourself to make the days and years at your disposal both mellow and productive, whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.

So, whatever your age, why not keep going for the gusto? Isn't it hugely more fun to whoop it up, whatever that entails for you, than to mope around? Plus, the world needs your experience, wisdom, and plain old guts now more than ever, foxy lady. You can help us all by hanging in with your best game and also by staying mellow with FPE!

PS: If your particular "game" involves something you want or need to do,
a single step
counts. Maybe take one today?

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