Why not women such as ourselves, right? Although our own aging process may include hard times that mellowing wines duck entirely, we generally can choose the ways we address such challenges. We can also choose the nature of our approach to life itself: whether that be fairly upbeat, for example, or perhaps subdued or glum...or maybe something else entirely. We decide.
So, here's a thought. What if we "seasoned" women were to consciously adopt a lighter attitude across the board—allowing ourselves to laugh more, stress less, and do whatever we can to fend off the blues.
What if we also monitor our aging "experience" now and then for such elements as purpose (perhaps helping others, among many other possibilities). Exploration, adventure, and just plain fun are great companions, as well...IF we can keep them around.
Because those puppies can wander off now and then. Sometimes they do so only temporarily or to a minor degree. But maybe, instead, they leave us feeling trapped in a (losing) poker game with the Fates.
Then what do we do, we may wonder while chewing our nails or perhaps cursing "colorfully."
During tedious and/or challenging times, it might be helpful to talk things over a bit with someone who understands how to listen: a sensitive friend or family member, for example, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc.
Another possibility? Sometimes, people find that tweaking their lives in even simple ways helps restore some of their joie de vivre. Perhaps that would be true for you. Or, maybe you could begin sorting out one or two more-serious things affecting your life, if any are so doing and if the "sorting" seems feasible under the present circumstances. Even a single step could start the ball rolling...
And here's something else for you to consider: pursuing a strongly held wish or goal—a personal path or hill awaiting your metaphorical boots. Any of the following, for example, might be useful steps for you and those "boots":
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish those things
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in quite a bit during our autumn years.
For example, the don't-get-old box often involves such put-downish counsel as this: *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70, etc. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Eight things you may be doing that make you seem Old...etcetera, etcetera.
Really? Like, we now need Rules concerning the way we present ourselves and/or what we choose to be, do, or have? Enough! At this point, who could possibly be better qualified than we to judge the fitness of our own behavior? Easy answer (IMHO).
Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box, which lives to deflect us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from those things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having done before now. (Raising my hand.)
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to
name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter. But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggers—whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.
Meanwhile, whatever path you forge, do remember to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? And may the "Force" be with you as you go!!
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