Aging Mellow
   So, if wines do it...

Why not aging women, as well? And if that feels like a stretch, which for some of us it may (in spades), here's something to consider. When we do sideline our shock/outrage at the whole aging thing, we create more space for laughter and other "mellowing" behavior that can help us vanquish the Aging Blues. 

For example, maybe we put more energy toward a particular purpose: helping others, spreading good cheer, securing our finances, etcetera. And perhaps we even take time, now and then, to assess the level of exploration, adventure, creativity, and even fun in our lives.

Why do that? Because these (and other) magicians tend to stray when we're bored, stressed, preoccupied, and/or dueling with the Fates. During such times, their absence may affect us more than we realize. Luckily, other actions/tools are often available to us as well.

   A Few Possibilities to Consider...

During trying times, many find it helpful to talk with people who actually know how to listen. For example, conversations with a sensitive friend/family member or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc., may yield surprising benefits.

Another possibility? Life-tweaks, which could include even very simple adjustments
to enhance and/or lure back joie de vivre or sort out an issue that's troubling you (if any are so doing). A single step, even just one, can often start the ball rolling; further steps, IF you take them, can keep it moving along.

Along these same lines, do you perhaps harbor a certain wish or goala personal path or hill that's been awaiting your metaphorical boots? If yes, could any of the four possibilities below be steps you and those "boots" may feel ready to undertake?

* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or possibly really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain/accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead and hanging in!
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go

   Boxes? Somebody said BOXES??  

Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Such "boxes" tend to lean in obnoxiously during the autumn years.

For example, the don't-get-old box can sometimes blindside midlife and senior women in remarkably tedious ways.
Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which deflects us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having done before now.

As dampening to the spirit can be the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it (the DDIs) boxes, and the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the usual suspects.

Click on any live link below for discussions about addressing these and other bandits.

                                     Bottom Line?

Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize.

Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although we could argue that you do not "owe" those to the world, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) keep hanging out with us.

Meanwhile, whatever path(s) you choose/forge during these years, your fans urge you to include some fun and other great stuff for Yourself. Because who could possibly deserve those more than you do??

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