Why not women like us, right? Although our own aging "experience" will encompass challenges unknown to mellowing wines, we do at least get to choose the ways we address those challenges. We can also choose the nature of our broader approach to life itself: fairly upbeat, perhaps, or maybe leaning toward aggrieved, subdued, glum...or even something else entirely. We decide.
So, what if we seasoned women were to "decide" to adopt a lighter attitude across the board—laughing more, stressing less, and finding other cool ways to fend off the Aging Blues.
What if, as well, we monitored our aging experience now and then for such elements as purpose (helping others, perhaps), exploration, adventure, and just plain fun. Why? Because these four, which contribute so greatly to life at any age, may wander some during our later years.
If we're lucky, they don't all scoot off at once...and also trickle back over time. But if this to-and-fro takes place while we're also dueling (perhaps unequally) with the Fates, what options do we have? Besides chewing our nails, wringing our hands, and/or cursing "colorfully"...
During tedious times, people sometimes find it helpful to spend time with those who understand how to listen: sensitive friends or family members, for example, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc. Conversations with such people may yield surprising benefits.
Another possibility? "Life-tweaks," which within this context could include even very simple adjustments we make to help lure back some of our joie de vivre. If such an idea strikes a chord with you, perhaps you might begin considering ways to deal with something that's dragging on your life (if anything is so doing and if the "dealing" seems in any way feasible). Even a single step can often start the ball rolling...
Something else to consider: Do you harbor a certain wish or goal—a personal path or hill, for example, that's been awaiting your metaphorical boots? If so, these might be a few steps (among others) for you and those "boots" to undertake:
* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go
Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" sometimes lean in obnoxiously during the autumn years.
A prime example would be the don't-get-old box, which (if allowed) can hound certain senior women in very tiresome ways. Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which deflects us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having sorted out before now (raising my hand on this one).
As dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggers—whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.
Meanwhile, whatever path(s) you forge during these years, your fans hope you'll be sure to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? Meanwhile, may Yoda and the "Force" be with you!
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