Aging Mellow
   So, if wines do it...

Why not women such as ourselves, right? Although our own aging process may feature "adjustments" foreign to wines mellowing happily in barrels and casks, we can choose the ways we address such challenges. Something else we can choose is the tenor of our broader approach to life. 

"Mellowing Out" our Aging

So, here's a thought. What if, during these years, those of us so inclined (and able) adopted a lighter and warmer attitude across the boardlaughing more and stressing less, for example.

What if we also made sure that our personal aging experience included such elements as purpose (helping others, perhaps, among many other possibilities). Exploration, adventure, and just plain fun are vital companions, as well...IF we can keep them around.

Because those puppies do tend to wander off now and then, don't they? Sometimes only temporarily and/or only to a minor degree, or maybe they leave us feeling trapped in a (losing) poker game with the Fates. Then what do we do, we may wonder while chewing our nails or perhaps cursing "colorfully."

   A Few Possibilities to Consider

Facing tedious and/or challenging times yourself? Perhaps you'd find it useful to talk things over a bit with someone who understands how to listen: a sensitive friend or family member, for example, or a therapist, clergyperson, coach, etc.

Another possibility? Sometimes people find that tweaking their lives in even simple ways
helps restore some of their joie de vivre. Perhaps you'd be one of those people. Or, maybe you could begin sorting out one or two more-serious things affecting your life, if any are so doing and if the "sorting" seems feasible under the present circumstances. Even a single step could start the ball rolling...

And here's something else you might consider: pursuing a strongly held wish or goala personal path (or even a "hill") awaiting your metaphorical boots. Any of the following, for example, might be useful steps for you and those boots: 

* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain or accomplish those things
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go

   Ummm, BOXES?  

Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., hindering our progress and/or lessening our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" seem to lean in quite a bit during our later years.

For example, the don't-get-old box often involves such put-downish counsel as this:
 *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70, etc. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Eight things you may be doing that make you seem Old...etcetera, etcetera.

Really? Like, we now need Rules concerning the way we present ourselves and/or (sometimes) also what we choose to be, do, or have? Enough! At this point, who could possibly be better qualified than we to judge the fitness of our own behavior? Easy answer.

   Other Common Boxes

Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box, which lives to deflect us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from those things we may really, really need to take care of and possibly feel guilty about not having done previously. (Raising my hand here.)

When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the usual suspects.

Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.

                                     Bottom Line?

Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter. But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggerswhether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you. 

Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.

Meanwhile, whatever path you forge, do remember to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? And may the "Force" be with you!!

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