Aging Mellow
   So, if wines do it...

Aging women could give it a shot, too. Right? Sure, we'll likely encounter tedious and even arduous challenges that mellowing wines duck entirely. BUT, unless we're in desperate circumstances, we can often choose the ways we address those challengessometimes more of a benefit than we may at first realize.

Plus, we also guide the nature of our approach to life itself: fairly upbeat, perhaps, or maybe leaning toward angry, aggrieved, glum...or another "stance" entirely. Whatever it is, we are essentially the deciders.

       "Deciding" to Mellow-out our own Aging

A promising idea at first glance, perhaps. Still, for those of us traversing life's autumn/winter stages, mellow might feel like rather a stretch. But if we subdue our shock and/or outrage, we may find ourselves lightening up somewhat: laughing more, stressing less, and finding other cool ways to fend off the Aging Blues.

One such "fender" might be to monitor our lives for purpose (helping others, perhaps?), exploration, adventure, and just plain fun. Why? Because these magicians tend to wander about when we're stressed, preoccupied, and/or dueling unequally with the Fates.

         Luckily, as we're coaxing them back, other actions and tools are often available to us as well.

   Just a Few Possibilities to Consider...

If they're able, people sometimes find it helpful during challenging times to talk with someone who understands how to listen: a sensitive friend or family member, for example, or a therapist, clergy person, coach, etc. Conversations with such persons may yield surprising benefits.

Another possibility? Life-tweaks, which within this context could include even very simple adjustments
we make to enhance/lure back our joie de vivre. If such an approach feels remotely promising, perhaps you could think about ways you might deal (positively) with an issue that troubles you in some way or even clouds your life. A single step can often start the ball rolling.

Something else to consider: Do you harbor a certain wish or goalperhaps even a personal path or hill that's been awaiting your metaphorical boots? If yes, could any of the four possibilities below be steps you and those "boots" might feel ready to undertake?

* Getting very, very clear about what YOU genuinely want for yourself, or perhaps really need to do
* Laying out a plausible course of action to attain/accomplish that thing
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving ahead (and hanging in!)
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes as you go

   Boxes? Did I actually say BOXES?  

Alas, yes. In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they can do this at any age, such "boxes" sometimes lean in obnoxiously during the autumn years.

A prime example would be the don't-get-old box, which (if allowed) can sometimes hound midlife and senior women in very tiresome ways.
Another candidate for rotten eggs? Procrastination, the do-it-later box, which deflects us from pursuing the things we want. It can also block us from things we may really, really need to take care of and perhaps also feel guilty about not having sorted out before now (raising my hand on this one).

As dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box, the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) boxto name but a few of the usual suspects.

Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself.

                                     Bottom Line?

Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't really matter (IMHO). But the behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent might hinder you unnecessarily and possibly also more than you realize. If you stay alert, though, you can often blow right past those draggerswhether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you. 

Something else to consider is that today's world SO needs your experience, wisdom, and good humor. Although you don't "owe" us those, what a gift such qualities can be...if you (please, please) continue to share them.

Meanwhile, whatever path(s) you forge during these years, your fans urge you to include some fun and other good stuff for Yourself. Deal? Because who could possibly deserve those more than you??

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