So, okay—mellow and aging might seem an improbable linkage to some of us in the "autumn" phase of life, given what we sometimes deal with. Perhaps you even feel that way yourself? If so, consider the parallel between our own lives and those of developing wines...for we too add complexity as we age, don't you find? That same complexity often fosters a certain mellowness of outlook, which tends to be more productive than bitching and moaning, anyway (if perhaps not always as satisfying).
First off, it's worth noting that (IMHO) the complexity/mellowness "morph" moves along more easily in the company of purpose, exploration/adventure, and the critical ingredient: fun!
Without those or other enhancements, our lives may feel decidedly Un-mellow at times...like, for example, when the "Grand Adventure" seems more like cut-throat poker with the Fates.
Playing that game yourself? If so, a good strategy might be to start taking steps (even small ones) toward the destinations still waiting, the "hills" still hoping to feel your metaphorical boots. Because if not now, when? If not you, who?
So, here's a suggestion: Even if circumstances constrain you right now, give some thought to the following actions:
* Getting as clear as possible about what YOU genuinely want (or perhaps need) to accomplish
* Laying out a plausible course of action (if you want to tweak your circumstances a bit)
* Taking a single step toward the goal(s), and then moving on at a pace that works for You
* Doing your best to stay out of the Boxes
In a nutshell, those would be attitudes, beliefs, habits, etc., that hinder our progress and/or lessen our enjoyment of life. Although they do this at any age, such "boxes" can become particularly troublesome in our later years. For example, the don't-get-old box may lead us to overly heed such counsel as this: *Ten things no woman should do/wear after 50/60/70. *Seven make-up blunders women make as they age. *Staying sexually attractive after 65: How realistic is it? *Looking old can sometimes be bad for your health. *Five ways not to look like a scary hag during your senior years...
Sure, with the last one I was just horsing around, but messages like these are all over the place. Even when offered in a helpful spirit, such material reinforces the tedious message that we tend to diminish in the eyes of society as the years pass. (In case we hadn't noticed that ourselves now and then, right?) Do we really need downers like that when we're trying to have a good time and/or get things done? Not hardly.
Instead, why not trash rigid and ageist rules concerning wearing apparel, or hair styles and makeup, or what some consider "appropriate" for women of a certain age to be, do, or have? As grownups, we are more than capable of making our own choices, creating our own style (among other things), and having a blast besides.
Another treacherous box? Try procrastination, the do-it-later box. This one we'd all be wise to stay clear of, for it is The Box from Hell. Plus, the more years we accumulate, the more potentially destructive it becomes, if we allow it to deflect us from the things we want or from those things we may really, really need to take care of (and possibly feel guilty about not having done so previously).
When allowed, as dampening to the spirit can be the not-enough box, the maybe-losing-it box (yuuge!), the too-late/old boxes, the don't/can't/shouldn't do it boxes, the maybe I'll need/want this later (clutter) box—to
name but a few of the usual suspects.
Click on any live link below for discussions about managing these and other impediments to the laid-back, jolly, and fulfilling autumn years you're now enjoying or may wish to create/maintain for yourself:
Whether or not the box analogy works for you doesn't matter. The behavioral and thought patterns such "boxes" represent, however, could hinder you unnecessarily and perhaps also more than you realize. But if you stay alert, you can often blow right past those draggers—freeing yourself to make the days and years at your disposal both mellow and productive, whether step by step or in leaps that might startle even you.
In the Game of Life, I believe we generally fare better when we go for the gusto. Plus, the world needs our experience, wisdom, and humor now more than ever...so why hang back? (Yes, I'm talking to you, cool and foxy lady.) Instead, help us all by hanging In with your best game and getting some serious jollies while you do it!
PS: If your particular "game" involves something you want or need to do,
even a single step counts. Maybe take one today?