Keep Hanging In...
But Do It for You

What—no claps? No cheers and glad cries? This, when day after day or week after week you're up with the rooster and still going strong after the rest of us are into serious chilling.

In fact, at this point perhaps you wonder if even a Geiger counter could detect any interest in what you're doing. And maybe
you’re mostly okay with that, if you have little need for attention, support, and/or kudos.

            On the Other Hand...

Still, at least a shred of "external" enthusiasm might be nice now and then, right? So please remind yourself of something you've no doubt sensed from time to time, which is that tepid or zero interest may actually have little to do with you and/or your enterprise of the moment. As you'll likely have noted, people tend to be pretty preoccupied with their "devices" these days.

Some of them may also be worried, unhappy, overwhelmed, and/or ill, and thus unable to leap onto your bandwagon and begin waving banners. BUT
as you cut those folks a break, do keep hanging in yourself.

Begrudgers

Others may be a different story. Some, for example, might feel uncomfortable if you begin to shift even slightly from your customary role(s) or if they think you’re pulling “ahead” of them in some way. Perhaps they'll question what you're doing or try to discourage you in other ways. At the very least, some may say or do things meant to dampen your enthusiasm for a new goal or path. Sounding familiar?

So, if you hang out now and then with competitive people or those with self-esteem issues, grinching tendencies, a jealousy habit, etc., perhaps forget about sharing goals and dreams with them. That is, unless you're good with silence, boredom, discouraging comments, and/or other tedious and transparent displays.

Like, you really have time to listen to people count on their fingers the pitfalls or even pratfalls they see before you, right? Or to hear them speak at length about friends or acquaintances who’ve already done whatever you’re engaged in—maybe more than once and no doubt far better than you ever could? Uh-huh.

Why do people choose to act in such ways, you wonder? Beats me, kid, but perhaps you'd agree that such behaviors likely say more about the speakers themselves than about you and/or your enterprise. 
Whether you have time for all that, only you can say.

But here's a thought: perhaps you might consider shaving down the personal information
and/or time
you share with such folk. In fact, unless they’re among your nearest and dearest, maybe do more of your “depositing” where there’s a greater return. (Hey, what works for portfolios might work pretty well for your broader life, too.) 

The Cheering-Section Vote?


This one: keep going for the goal, the dream, the imperative. When you "arrive"—and also along the way—you could encounter some great stuff. And if you allow your fans a second vote, it would be this: should begrudgers, grinches, jerks, and/or nice-but-preoccupied people need some encouraging words themselves one day, you'll share more generously with them than they could manage with you. 

Do the first three specimens warrant such consideration? Hardly, but each time you extend a hand or some thoughtful and/or encouraging words to person or beast, you create positive ripples. Since your own karma no doubt benefits as well, you'll actually have created a double-win with nothing more than some considerate behavior. Nice work.

In the meantime, just as well keep right on truckin'. And you might also bear in mind a Sufi proverb suggesting that when on a personal journey of any kind, you be wary of directions from those who may never have left home. But that'll be up to you, tiger.  ;-)

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