Keep Hanging In...But Do It for You!

What—no claps? No cheers and glad cries? This, when day after day or week after week you're up with the rooster and still going strong after most everyone else has packed it in.

In fact, at this point perhaps you wonder if even a Geiger counter would detect any interest in what you're doing. And p
erhaps you’re mostly okay with that: you may be one with little need for attention, support, and/or kudos.

                     But Still...

If you do miss such enthusiasm, however, perhaps even to the point of questioning the value and/or appeal of your project, please listen up. Lukewarm or minimal interest may actually have little to do with you and/or your enterprise. For one thing, people tend to be pretty busy these days.

And for another,
some of your associates may have preoccupations of their own. Worried, unhappy, overwhelmed, and/or possibly ill people can’t always leap onto the bandwagon of another, much as they may wish otherwise. So, try to cut them a break...but keep hanging in yourself.


Others may be a different story. Some, for example, might feel uncomfortable if you begin to shift even slightly from your customary role(s), or if they think you’re pulling “ahead” of them in some way. Perhaps they'll question what you're doing or try to discourage you in other ways. At the very least, some may say or do things meant to dampen your enthusiasm for a new goal or path.

So, if you hang out now and then with competitive people or those with self-esteem issues, grinching tendencies, a jealousy habit, etc., perhaps forget about sharing goals and dreams with them. That is, unless you're good with silence, boredom, discouraging comments, and/or other tedious and transparent displays.

Like, you have time to listen to people count on their fingers the pitfalls or even pratfalls they see before you, right? ;-) Or to hear them speak at length about friends or acquaintances who’ve already done whatever you’re engaged in—maybe more than once and no doubt far better than you ever could? Surely not.

Nor let us forget those who note in some put-downish manner that you should have done this waaay sooner. And so on. Why do people choose to act in such ways, you wonder? Beats me, kid, but sometimes those behaviors are just the breaks...and generally say rather more about the speakers themselves than about you and/or your enterprise.

Whether you have time for all that, only you can say. But here's a thought: perhaps you might consider shaving down the personal information and/or time you share with such folk. In fact, unless they’re among your nearest and dearest, maybe do more of your “depositing” where there’s a greater return. (Hey, what works for portfolios might work pretty well for your broader life, too.) 

The Cheering-Section Vote?

This one: keep going for the goal, the dream, the imperative. When you "arrive"—and even at certain points along the way—you could encounter some great stuff. And if you allow your fans a second vote, it would be this: should begrudgers, grinches, jerks, and/or nice-but-preoccupied people need some encouraging words themselves one day, you'll share more generously with them than they could manage with you. 

Do the first three specimens warrant such consideration? Hardly, but each time you extend a hand or some thoughtful and/or encouraging words to person or beast, you create a positive ripple. Since your own karma no doubt benefits as well, you'll actually have created a double-win with nothing more than some considerate behavior. Nice work, kid.

In the meantime, just keep on truckin'. And you might also bear in mind a Sufi proverb suggesting that, when on a personal journey of any kind, you be wary of directions from those who may never have left home. Just a thought...

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