Keep Hanging In...But Do It for You!

Whoa—no claps? No cheers and glad cries? This, when day after day or week after week you're up with the rooster and still going strong after most everyone else has packed it in. Yet, it feels like even a Geiger counter would detect little interest in what you're doing. And perhaps you’re mostly okay with that: you may be one with little need for attention, support, and/or kudos.

                      But Still...

If you do miss such enthusiasm, perhaps to the point of questioning the value and/or appeal of your project, please listen up. Lukewarm or minimal interest may actually have little to do with you and/or your enterprise. For one thing, people tend to be pretty busy these day. And for another, some of your associates may have preoccupations of their own. Worried, unhappy, overwhelmed, and/or possibly ill people can’t always leap onto the bandwagon of another, much as they may wish otherwise. So, try to cut them a break...but keep hanging in yourself.


Others—and many of us know a few—may be a different story. Some, for example, might feel uncomfortable if your thinking and behavior begin to shift you from your customary role(s), or if they think you’re pulling “ahead” of them in some way. Such feelings may lead them to question or put down what you're doing or perhaps try to discourage you in other ways. At the very least, some may say or do things meant to dampen your enthusiasm for a new goal or path.

You could encounter such attitudes and behavior among competitive people or those with self-esteem issues, grinching tendencies, a jealousy habit...whatever. So don’t be a dummy. Do not even consider sharing goals and dreams with them unless you're good with silence, boredom, discouraging comments, and/or other tedious and transparent displays. (Hey, I never claimed the goose wasn't bossy.)

Like you really have time to listen to people count on their fingers the pitfalls or even pratfalls they see before you? Or speak at length about friends or acquaintances who’ve already done whatever you’re engaged in—maybe more than once and no doubt far better than you ever could. I don't think so.

Nor let us forget those who note that you should have done this waaay sooner: “Well, it’s about time!” And so on. Why do people choose to act that way, you wonder? Beats me, kid, but sometimes those behaviors are just the breaks. And they generally say quite a bit more about the speakers than about you and/or your enterprise.

So, here’s a thought: perhaps consider shaving down the personal information and/or time you share with such types. In fact, unless they’re among your nearest and dearest, maybe do more of your “depositing” where there’s a greater return. What works for portfolios might work for your broader life as well, right?

The Cheering-Section Vote?

This one: go for the goal, the dream, the imperative, and then just keep on keepin' on. When you "arrive"—and even at certain points along the way—you could encounter some pretty cool stuff. So, go for it! Take the first step today or, better still, right now. And if you allow your fans a second vote, it would be this: should begrudgers, grinches, jerks, and/or nice-but-preoccupied people need some encouraging words themselves one day, you'll share more generously with them than they could manage with you.

Do the first three specimens deserve such consideration? Not hardly, but each time you extend a hand or some thoughtful words to person or beast, you create a positive ripple in a world sorely in need of such "positives." Since your own karma no doubt benefits as well, you'll actually have created a double-win with nothing more than some considerate behavior. Nice work.

In the meantime, just keep on truckin'...and you might also bear in mind a Sufi proverb suggesting that, when on a personal journey of any kind, you be wary of directions from those who may never have left home.  ;-)

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