Ah, but if we don't know where "there" even is, it'll be hard to get there, right? Thus, the vital steps of clarifying and pursuing goals, which some of us may find to be less than a free ride. We may also sometimes find that the sooner that "ride" begins, the better. Why? For one thing, because less time may remain for us than once seemed to stretch toward a distant horizon.
So okay, goals can be useful. And perhaps you already sense that, with a few such goals (and some time and "space"), you could score "bigly" yourself. But you have to make a start, tiger. Which is why I urge you, perhaps presumptuously, to please not wait another day to begin clarifying and then acting upon your dreams and objectives. Particularly if you're a woman of "a certain age," I urge you to do this without delay.
Whatever you do or do not do, the big clock just keeps ticking away. And, if you hold off too long, perhaps one day it really will be
too late to be, do, or have some of those things you’ve been putting
off. Or to be, do, or have some of the things you didn’t even realize
you wanted. [BTW, some serious thought about what YOU want for yourself might reveal more of those than you had previously supposed...]
When your destination is firmly set, a powerful but often overlooked tool stands ready to assist: small steps. Even a single one of those can kick off (and/or maintain) a process leading you forward. But alas, people sometimes find such steps hard to take seriously because they seem so...well, small. And not only small, but perhaps pedestrian as well—far too lacking in the grand gestures, the drama and irrevocable acts that some may expect Change to entail.
Unfortunate as well? The procrastination often ensuing when people
believe that meeting their goals will require such behavior...or when they allow others to deflect them from those goals (see Hanging In). Is that going to be your story?
Not if you lay out a plan and start working through the steps; not if you behave like a turtle on a mission. Just do what it takes to get the job done, step by step with maybe a leap or two now and then when the Turtle glimpses champagne or maybe chocolate(!) at the finish line. Slow-and-steady win lots of races, but an occasional sprint can also aid the cause. ;-)
You get to call it: whether hard, easy, or in-between
will depend upon your target, your circumstances, and how you
choose to play your game. If you could use some support at any point
during that "game," perhaps consider seeking it out. You
might be surprised at the ways a little help can speed things along.
Meanwhile, though, take even a single step that feels like progress.
Then, take another and another, always remembering that getting there can sometimes be half the fun!